Uniqueness
We say everyone is unique. This is a simple phrase we hear and say All the time. Easier said than done.
When one of my friend's girlfriend broke off with him, she said that "you don't care for me enough" (a.k.a. you care about yourself, even your ex girlfriends). As I come to know him over the years, that statement is just politically wrong. Though that I was never his girlfriend, I know for a fact that he does indeed care about that girl; he just didn't care for her 'the way she wanted' or maybe, 'to her, that's not enough'.
In GA, Derek and Meredith broke off for similar reasons.
我漸漸了解you can't hope/request/change/ another person's perception of 'caring,' especially in relationships. 而必須了解和信任對方是用他最會/知道的方式對待這份關係。別人可以對我argue說你這樣是鴕鳥的想法，但是我會跟對方說:你又怎麼知道你對他的方法真的是他心目中所期待的呢?
到昨天我才知道經濟學中認定，我們不可以也無法去改變別人的效用函數:illegitimate. 這意思近乎imply說人無法互相溝通而只能利用市場的功能去調節人間的差異。但是無論如何，每個人的效用函數都是unique and unchangable.
--it's a rattling....
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